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Some wedding details are best left to the old-school methods, and handwritten thank you notes are one of the best examples. In our world of technology, the handwritten note is such a lost art yet they convey sincere gratitude in a much better way than a typed message.

Everyone who has given you a gift at any point along your wedding planning journey, including any of the wedding festivities such as your engagement party, bridal shower, or at the wedding itself should get a thank you note from you and your fiance. The easiest way to keep track of who gave what is to appoint someone to take notes during any present opening session so you’ll easily be able to remember who gave what. It will make the Thank You letter

Here are some tips and tricks for writing and sending your thank you notes:

The Stationery

Personalizing your thank-you notes with a picture of you and your fiance is a great opportunity to show off your first pictures together as newlyweds. One thing to consider is how long it will take to have these printed and sent to you, and how quickly you need to get your thank you cards sent. We recommend using one of your engagement photos and having cards printed so you have a stack ready to go!

The Message

Don’t feel pressure to write a unique message for every guest. But certainly feel free too if you’re inspired! There is nothing wrong with using with a thank-you formula and inserting personal details to make each note special and sincere.

• Thank the guest for the specific gift they gave you

• Add a line about how you plan to use it

• Close by mentioning a fun moment you got to share with them

Timing

Aim to mail your thank yous within one to three months of your wedding. The idea of mailing them within a year is a myth, and it’s better to get it done and out of the way so you can enjoy spending time with your new spouse.

Pro tip: There is no reason to try to do all your thank-yous in one session. Tackle them in chunks and be sure to split the job with your partner. Even if they have terrible handwriting, they can stuff, lick and add the stamp!

Download our Invitation Guide for more tips and tricks on Thank You Note Etiquette.